EPISODE 3

Daily Questions - Part 2

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Hey guys, welcome to A Lifelong Habit of Exercise. I'm Coach Kendra and this is episode three. Today we're going to continue talking about daily questions. Last week I mentioned that each week during this podcast, we will take a look at things in a very bite sized way, in very small digestible pieces. A lot of the concepts we will discuss and have been discussing may not be brand new to you, but I aim to kind of look at them in a different way than maybe what you're used to. So because of this, I want to challenge you to keep an open mind while listening. Our brains, what they really like to do is it likes to guess while somebody else talks. I know I laugh because this is something that I do so much. It likes it, like our brains like to guess at what potentially may be coming and while they're talking, this may not be very useful. Sometimes I tend to miss things while I'm trying to listen and get at what they potentially may say. So the good thing about a podcast is that you have the option to actually go back and re-listen if you do miss something. But I know recently I was talking to my dad, and he was telling me about an acronym that I can't even remember at this point, what it stood for exactly, but he was telling me about an acronym. And what it was was something like SNAP s-n-a-p. And I had like, as he started telling me what the S and the N stood for, I had already guessed at what the A and the P stood for. Well, after he's talking, he continued talking, and by the time I was done, I realized what he said wasn't what I thought it was. So then I had to be like, I'm sorry, I missed that. Could you please repeat it? All of a sudden, I felt like man, it's interesting that that's what our brain does. So what I really want to do is I really want to challenge you guys to be open while you listen and be open while you're listening. But be able to then after you're done, be able to piece together and kind of implement things The way that they work for you individually. So I know I talked about questions of the very first episode and I talked about how it'd be awesome if you guys tried to challenge yourself to guess the answer. If you don't already know the answer, if you're going to ask somebody a question, go ahead and guess the answer that they may give you. In this case, I'm telling you, while you're actually talking to someone, try not to guess what they're gonna say. And it's okay if you can do that. But try not to miss what's being said, especially when you're in like learning environments. I know like some of you guys may be students still or some of you guys may have to take trainings or different things. I challenge you in any learning environment to really listen and get the concept and get what's being taught. And then go back and implement it individually for yourself on your own personal situation and how it works.

 

All right, you guys. So last week, we discussed what daily questions are and how they're useful. We also discussed the first of the daily questions that you with my Check Your TEMP program. For those of you guys that are new, my Check Your TEMP program is my one month, one on one program where we get really personal and really study and apply individually the things that we talk about on this podcast. So today what we're going to talk about is the second question of that daily questions. So the second question has two parts to it. What is your current emotion? And what is your ideal emotion? So again, we're talking about exercise and question one was, what do you think about your upcoming exercise for the day? And then question two is what is your current emotion and what is your ideal emotion? So emotions when we talk about emotions, it's the same thing of when we talk about feelings, so feelings and emotions I will use interchangeably. An emotion is just simply a vibration in our body caused by a thought In our mind, so again, it's simply a vibration in our body that's caused by a thought in our mind. And that is what, again, you will hear me use interchangeably, emotion and feeling. I am a basketball coach. I'm a college basketball coach, and one of the things I implemented with my team this year was we have a lot of early morning workouts. And as you can imagine, college age, student athletes don't like to necessarily wake up at 6am or before 6am so that they have to be at our workout at 6am. So a lot of times what we were encountering was a lot of grumpiness, a lot of negative moods, a lot of tiredness, a lot of those kinds of emotions coming into a 6am workout. So one of the things that I incorporated is every morning that we had, and it ended up turning into every workout that we had, I would ask our players, what mood do you choose? To be in. And again, this started because of the early mornings they would come in and they would just be so tired or they would be so whatever it may be, because they had to be up that early. And I started asking them, what mood do you choose to be in? And when we talk about moods, so it's interesting because some people may be like, well, you're talking about emotions, you're talking about feelings, but what about a mood? So a mood is like a group of feelings or emotions. It's a group of feelings or emotions. And when I think of a group, I think of like, okay, like a clique, and when we think of cliques, that's kind of like, I like to think of it as it's like similar feelings or emotions kind of hanging out together that lead to your overall mood, and it's kind of your overall group of what that is. Okay? So as you know, from before our thoughts lead to our feelings. And when our thoughts lead to our feelings, then that means kind of like a collection of thoughts kind of can lead to an overall mood because your thoughts individually lead to an emotion or a feeling and then that collection of feelings can lead to that mood. Okay, so that's not very important right now, which I'm just kind of giving you guys the background of what when I had started this with my team, it's what mood do you choose to be in? And that's what I had asked them. And that was like the daily question for them. And I wanted to make sure that they understood and I never left out choose what mood do you choose to be in so that they understood that that was an option. And remember, we talked about last time that our thoughts are optional, which means that we have a choice and that's why that choose is so important. Our thoughts are what leads to our feelings. Our thoughts are optional, which means that there is a choice. Our mood can refer also to like you can refer to it as like the your mental condition. So when the condition of something Like the condition of what something is in, so your mental condition. And as a basketball coach, when I hear condition, I think of like conditioning, and in athletics. That's what we do to get in shape. Right? So exercise, that's what we're doing. We're kind of conditioning is what we call it in athletics in order to get in shape. So what does that mean to condition mentally? What does that look like? What does that really mean? So our feelings make up our mood. And if our feelings make up our mood, and our feelings come from our thoughts, and our thoughts are optional, then the conditioning and getting in shape happens when you're exercising consistently towards your desired results. So that's with anything. So conditioning is when you're exercising consistently towards your desired results. But I want you to keep in mind of when we're talking about mentally so what does that mean for For the mental aspect of it, so like think about exercises like you're exercising consistently towards your desired results, like exercises we think about like when you're in class you have homework exercises, right? So you're exercising consistently your teacher or professor is giving you exercises to get you towards those desired results. In athletics, the workouts that we have the exercises that we have, we're exercising consistently in the form in that case of an exercise or a workout towards our desired results, which is getting in shape in that aspect. If you ever have an injury or you have to have rehabilitation of an injury, you are exercising consistently to get that back in shape to where it is healed. Okay, so those exercises exercising consistently towards desired results. That's really how you get the conditioning.

 

So when you're talking about what mood do you choose to be in getting in shape for my players was consistently choosing the mood that led them to their desired results. So every morning we'd kind of condition that just like homework assignments like homework assignments, we're doing exercises to get us to the end of that class and fulfill those requirements of those classes. So this would be exercising consistently, choosing consistently, the mood to get them to their desired results. Now, daily question one is so important. Why is daily question one so important? It's important because like we talked about last time, it raises awareness. So what do you think about your upcoming exercise for the day that brought awareness to us what's going on in our mind that helped us to pull out and remember we talked about writing it down that helped us to pull out the thoughts from our brain from being words in our brain to being words on paper so that we could see it and be aware of it. It's very helpful to be aware of our thoughts, since our thoughts cause our emotions. And so that's very helpful, obviously leading into our daily question too. Because when you're looking at those thoughts on paper, now that you've looked at question number one, it's what are the feelings that you feel with what you wrote down? What are the emotions that come up? When you look at the things that you wrote down? You may have multiple thoughts, it may not have just been one thing that you wrote down for that. What do you think about your upcoming exercise for the day. There may be multiple things that came up, which means there may be multiple fillings. So what is your overall emotion towards your exercise for the day? This is awesome, because you can also then get curious. So with what you wrote down, get curious about those feelings. Sometimes when you're curious, it's interesting to be able to see what certain thoughts are leading to certain emotions. This may be the first time you've ever actually gotten curious about your thoughts gotten curious about what's going on in your head. Now you've wrote them down, you put them on paper, now you're able to look at them now, you can even be curious about the emotions that they bring. Is there a pattern? Is there certain things? Is it where there's a certain mood around the entire thing? Is that collection of thoughts overall kind of leading to similar feelings? My guess is that they probably do. It's probably very similar the emotions that you are getting from the thoughts that you wrote down if you wrote down multiple, so allow yourself be curious about it. Allow yourself to just kind of be in the moment with those thoughts in your mind and the vibration that is caused from those thoughts, the vibration in your body. When you see those words when you think those thoughts, what is that vibration? Be curious take note of anything you notice about that vibration, are some stronger than others. Be really extremely curious about it all. Now the second part of that daily question number two is the what is your ideal emotion? How do you want to feel towards your exercise for the day? If you could feel any way you wanted towards your exercise what would you want to feel? What is the emotion that you would want to feel if you could feel anything? A common response I hear to this question is neutral. And I want you to really take a moment to think about this question. Think about like, what is your ideal emotion if you could feel any emotion. And the response neutral is interesting to me, because I think the reason that a lot of people tend to go to neutral is because when you have a current feeling about something or previously have had a feeling about something, and you perceive that feeling to be more of a negative feeling, anything other than what you're currently feeling or what you felt in the past seems to be great. And so I think a lot of times people go to that neutral place, because they've perceived that other emotion to be so bad in the past or currently. They just want to get out of that emotion. So I want to challenge you, if neutral wasn't an option, what would that other emotion be your ideal emotion you could have pick anything in the world. If you truly want it to just be neutral, then okay, but I want you to challenge yourself to are you going to neutral because it's just better than where you're at? Any emotion is available to you any emotion at all? I want you to take the time to think about that.

 

What is your ideal emotion towards exercising? If you could feel any way you want at all? Right before exercising and during exercising, how would you choose to feel? What would be that emotion going into exercising, if you could do any, any emotion, any feeling at all, what would that be? Now, again, I know what we talk about, seems very simple. But again, I really just want it to be super digestible. The last thing I want to talk to you guys about today is I cannot leave the first episode that we do over emotions, that we dive into emotions without saying that we are responsible for our own emotions. You are responsible for your own emotion. I'm responsible for my own emotions. And when I first learned this, this is something that was so mind blowing to me. For so long, I went through my life, thinking that circumstances, which is you remember, circumstances are the factual things and things outside of our own control. I went through life for so long thinking that my circumstances were responsible for the way that I felt. My circumstances I thought were responsible for the way that I feel the emotions that I had, like I was giving credit to my circumstances. I was blaming my circumstances. I want to leave you with this piece, that we are responsible for our own emotions. And I really want you to really think about that. We get to feel how ever we want right now, if you want to feel accomplished right now, guess what? You can feel accomplished. You don't have to wait until you exercise a year straight before feeling accomplished. When we ask ourselves daily question number two, what is your current emotion? And what is your ideal emotion? We really get a chance to be curious, knowing that our thoughts are optional, and that we're responsible for our own emotions. So when we know Both of those that our thoughts are optional, and we're responsible for our own emotions, it leads to so much curiosity, like you have the opportunity to just really get curious about that. But beyond that, I really want you to really sit with that we're responsible for our own emotions and that you can just like, you get to choose, and you get to be in whatever emotion you want to be in right now. And for the next week, like I really want you guys to continue to ask yourselves daily question number one and now add in daily question number two, and I want you to challenge yourself to write it all down, write it all down and get so curious about it. Like this is all the stuff that we work on. In my Check Your TEMP program, and I'm so excited to be sharing it with you guys. But I want you to be so curious about it. Be curious about everything that comes up along this way like along this journey. Be curious about it. What is your ideal emotion? What is your current emotion and ask them in that order, what is your current emotion and then move to the what is your ideal emotion? and ask yourself every single day, that daily question number one, and that daily question number two, and then look at it, examine it, be curious about it. And I am so excited just write it all down. I'm excited for you to try this. I'm excited for you to implement daily question number two now that you have gotten kind of daily question number one down a little bit and start being curious more about emotions. write it all down. Until next time, I'm Coach Kendra. If you guys love this podcast, you will love my Check Your TEMP program. It is a personalized program that we dig deep into everything we discuss on this podcast. Work with me for one month and never stop exercising again. Head over to CoachKendra.com/workwithme to set up a FREE Mini session.