EPISODE 12

TRANSCRIPT

 

Hey guys, welcome to A Lifelong Habit of Exercise. I'm Coach Kendra, and this is episode 12. Today we are going to be talking about value. What is value? The way I like to think about value is value is just a thought that we have of what something is worth. A thought that we have of what something is worth. 

 

I want to talk about the value of $1. Let's think about the value of $1. A US dollar. Collectively, as a country, whether we individually were actually a part of the decision, or what we have collectively agreed upon the value of $1. We know that if we have $1, we know what that value is. Now when it comes to other things in our lives. Individually, a lot of us have other than money, a lot of us decide on our own what the value is of certain things in our lives. Individually, we get to decide what that value is going to be, we have that decision that we get to make on certain things outside of money. Because money we've collectively, as a country said this is what the value of $1 is. But what about all of those other things? A lot of times, all of the other things, we want the things that are most important to us, a lot of times we want those around us to find those very important to them, too, we want that value. If we value something at a very high level, we want those around us to value that same thing at a very high level too. And a lot of times, that is the case for certain things. And the reason for that is because a lot of times we were raised to similarly or we were raised possibly in the same household, it could be a sibling, it could be a parent that you want to have that same value. And normally they will if you were raised the exact same way. Or if you were raised in a very similar way, they will have that same value on the same things.

 

But what if they don't? What if there's something say, for instance, you want to play the piano. And you're so excited to play the piano. And playing the piano to you is extremely valuable if you could learn how to play the piano that is something you value very high. And what if those around you don't value that? A lot of times what happens is the thought that they don't value that to the same extent that we do, or even at all, because they may not the thought that they don't value it the way that we do. A lot of times stops us from carrying out that or learning it or proceeding on with whatever it is. It discourages us thought that they don't value that because we want them so badly to and we think that they should value it, the same way that we do. Those thoughts stop us from continuing on, or even pursuing it to begin with. If value is our thought of what something is worth, we all have the ability to decide the value of specific things for ourselves. And it's okay for someone else, even if they are our best friend, even if they are the closest person to us, it's okay for them not to value, even the thing that we value the absolute most. Just like it's okay for us not to value the thing that they value at their most. The thing that's most important to them, it's okay for us not to value that at the same height is what they value that thing.

 

When it comes to exercise, oftentimes, we want someone else to go through the process with us. We want an accountability partner. We want somebody to be there for us, we want somebody to be there to help encourage us. Our overall value on exercise may not be the same as somebody else, or anybody else that's close to us. There may not be anybody in your life that values exercise the way that you do. Even if you're not exercising right now, that doesn't mean that your value of exercise isn't high. But what we do is we try to look and search for other people to value the same things that we do such as exercise in this example, we want someone else to value it. When we start even if we start on our own and we say like, "Okay, I'm gonna start and I know this is what's good for me", We start exercising on our own and then we start looking around and wanting encouragement from others, and wanting someone else to be happy for us, and wanting other people to value, our exercise and our health and the things that we want to get out of it.

 

But what is fun to know, and I would say encouraging for me, it's encouraging to understand that we don't need anyone else to value what we do. The only person we need to value what we do, such as exercise, or value, the things that we find most important, the only people we need to value that is us, when we decide to exercise, we don't need anybody else to find that valuable. They can do and think whatever they want. And a lot of times, what's interesting too, is that people may actually find exercise valuable, extremely valuable, and they may value at the same, like as high as you do. But what they don't value at the same level that you do is your exercise and your health. They may value their own, but that doesn't even translate the same because that is individual to them their exercises, their exercise, your exercise gets to be your exercise. But what we want, especially when we're starting new things, is we want other people to value what we're doing to the same extent that we do. And the good news is we don't need to. Nobody needs to value it except for us. I think a lot of times we think that unless someone values, the things most important to us individually, unless they value it the same way that we value it, we think that they don't care about us. We think that we are not important to them, because they don't value the same things that we do, or they don't value especially I think when it comes to exercise, when we start exercising, and we look around and all of a sudden, they don't have that same value on our exercise, we think that it has something to do with us.

 

But in reality, you guys, like I've talked about, they have the ability to think and do whatever they want to do. We've talked about this before, which means they can have the value on things that they want, they can decide what that value is for any of it, and it has nothing to do with you. Their value for your exercise or their value for exercise in general has nothing to do with you. It has everything to do with them. Remember, value is simply our thought of what something is worth. So it's just their thought of what something is worth.

 

Just like you get to have a thought of what something is worth and not the value. And it has nothing to do with us and everything to do with them. When we really think about that and when we're really able to understand that how we view something as far as value, what we value, what we determined to be important to us, we are allowed to just do that by ourselves. When we're able to understand that and when we are able to see that we don't need anybody else to value what we do, then I talk about this cherry on top all the time, right? So then, if they do, and they decide that that's valuable what you are doing, then that's just a cherry on top. But if they don't find it valuable, then it doesn't matter, then we get to still find it valuable and continue on with what we do, but if they don't find it valuable, that's okay. And we can continue to pursue whatever it is that we want to pursue. So like I said, for exercise, like if you want to start exercising, and you find that extremely valuable, if you find the value and exercising and your health and what you're going to get out of exercising, and then somebody else finds value in that too great cherry on top. Then maybe you guys can support each other, you guys can be there for each other, but then if you're not, if they are not there and they don't find the value in it, then that's okay too. You are not dependent upon them, because you already find the value for yourself. 

 

I think with exercise, the other thing is is the value in our results. I think a lot of times we look to other people, and we want other people to acknowledge our results. And when I say results, that doesn't mean necessarily oh my gosh, we lost 100 pounds. That doesn't mean huge results. What about small results? What about just getting started? What about exercising for 10 days that you said you were going to exercise for. Maybe not 10 days in a row, but 10 days over the course of time, maybe we're going to exercise four days a week and so for 10 times in a row you actually followed through, and you did that. That's a result, right? So we look, I think for results, I think we look to other people to value those results. And that's the same thing here is like, what is it? Remember the value, the thought of what something is worth? What are those results worth? What is the value of those results for yourself? I want you guys to start asking yourself those questions. What is the value of this? When it comes to exercising? What is that value to you?

 

I think a lot of times we try to want other people to find things like I said valuable. But we don't even take the time to look at ourselves and say what is that value to us? What is the value of your health to you? What is your value of your health? What is your value of your exercise? I want you guys to start looking at that and asking yourself those questions. Being able to ask yourself, what is that value? That will help you to have your own back, that will help you to be able to be there for yourself and be able to decide what's of value to me? When it comes to exercise, what is this value to me, rather than having to look outside to someone else to those closest to us, they don't have to have that same value. You get to decide and then you get to be happy with the value that you have is exercising valuable to you? If it is why? Why is exercise valuable to you? I want you guys to do an exercise, there's an exercise that you guys can do, and really I want you to make a list. You can do this with a specific thing and I would recommend doing it with something specific. So in my example is exercise, and, again, this is A Lifelong Habit of Exercise, so I would recommend that you do it with exercise. And when you're talking about exercise, I want you to write down what exercise is worth to you. What is that value of exercise to you? What is it that you think you will get out of it? What do you get out of exercising? It could be energy, it could be overall health, it could be a clear mind. What is it that you get out of exercise? What is that value? When you're able to see what you get out of exercise when you're listing the things that you're able to get out of exercise or what you hope to get out of exercise, then you can look at that and say now what is that value? What is the value that you get out of exercise? What is the value of exercise to you? And then overall, I really do want you guys to answer the question that I asked earlier. What is your value of your health? We don't need to know what somebody else's value of our health is right? What we really need to determine is what is our value, personally, of our health? What is our value of our exercise? So for the next week, I want you guys to take a couple times where you guys have a chance to write down, write down everything that you get out of exercising that you want to get out of exercising and what is that value? And then I want you guys to answer that question, what is your value of your health? All right, until next time. 

 

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